Accepting Love

Something I’ve been wanting to write about since a long time.My friend Zee has aptly written this post. ❤

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You have to accept the love you get, not more not less. You have to understand that people give you love they are capable of. You can’t expect more from them.

Not only To keep yourself from getting hurt but to be fair to them too. They give what they are capable of, take it with open arms and appreciate it. Path to expectation, especially love, is a destructive road. You only end up hurting yourself while most of the time the other person is oblivious to it. You have to understand people love the way they can, the only ways they know they can. The day you learn to accept and be happy with whatever amount of love you get, is the day you will be freed.

I’m not saying to settle for less than you think you deserve, Not at all. Never settle for…

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Eternal Love

Jesus,your name
is the calm in my chaos.
You define everything I’m made of.

You’re the fragrance amidst
the pile of ashes,my dirty sins left behind.
You’re the one who urges me to change
and make clean that unsettling heart of mine.

Lord,you’re the hope
Of a rainbow in the stormy skies of life.
I know for sure I’ll never fear
the darkness that engulfs me at night
or the demons that need to be tamed inside.

Your presence I can find
In a gentle breeze
in the sweet laughter of a little baby
or the kind stranger across the street.

Your words give me strength to overcome
the negativity that that I’m constantly feeding
or the anger issues that I’m breeding.

I can’t imagine how I could be loved
for I despised myself for all my failings.
But you didn’t give up on me.
That’s when I realized that your love is all I need.

An open honest letter to whoever cares to read

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Note:People who get offended by this may kindly throw their views out the window.I DON’T CARE!

To an abuser we’ve all unfortunately known at some point in our lives.
You think you’ll never be caught because no one saw you nor does your victim have any proof of your dirty works.Here are some of the pathetic excuses I’ve got from google.Yes they all are real.

“Oh,so you didn’t have sex with her!” -And that somehow makes it all okay!
“She was wearing jeans.”-So you say you were trying to teach her a lesson because she dresses indecently and some other man would have done it anyway.
“You were JUST eve-teasing.It’s not that big of a deal!”
“The girl was drunk.I was just helping her out.”
“The girl ate chow-mein.”

Have you ever thought about the beast that you are?Who gave you any rights to decide what is right and wrong for her?If teaching her a lesson by violating her body is what you consider correction,God help your daughters.
You must know that there is someone who is much more powerful than you,that is God.He has recorded all your deeds. Remember that even if you aren’t punished by here on earth,God has heard her incessant cries and been with her on every sleepless night.And God is JUST.
To every person who sides with an abuser.
A mother,a father,a sibling or friend.Supporting them isn’t called love. It’s blatantly ignoring the truth in front of you because you can’t face it. A parent who truly loved her son would correct him and help him change instead of covering up. You  know are equally responsible for the misery you put the girls through.Sleepless and haunted nights don’t sound very nice do they?

To every victim of sexual abuse.
It’s never your fault.No matter which condition you are in, no one has the right to do anything with you. You maybe be shocked initially with what happened but never be ashamed to tell everyone who your abuser is. I know it is humiliating narrating your story ‘coz no matter how many times you repeat it, it hurts the same each time.The abuser should never have to get away with this.When he is shamed in front of everyone, he’ll never dare to do the same to another person.You must never ever keep quiet. Raise your voice and keep fighting till justice prevails.Never give up!Be brave girl.

What I think is the biggest reason that a****** like these exist is because our society doesn’t acknowledge sexual abuse.I don’t blame the abuser completely.It is all a sum total of the exposure of the world we live in.

1.Living in a patriarchal society we are made to believe that women are the inferior race ,which is why men think they can treat women the way they want and get away with it.Men rape/sexually abuse because
i)They Cannot handle Rejection.
ii)To express their power.
iii)To take Revenge
iv)They are sexually frustrated
v)Believe porn is real*
*I recently read a newspaper article where a 17 year old boy murdered a 7 year old because he didn’t comply with the older boy’s sexual advances in recreating a scene from a porn movie.
2.Films,Ads,Magazines,etc. these days objectify women’s bodies.They make women look like toys that men should possess.

3.People fail to understand that rape can occur even  within the family.This is something that our society has not yet come to terms with.

4.Most people don’t report these crimes for fear of being humiliated and not to forget the constant reminder of what happened.

What I find most disgusting is Child abuse.Those innocent kids don’t even know what is going on.Most children remain mum after the abuse because of fear,and most of the times it keeps repeating.All their hurt is then carried to adulthood which is sometimes difficult to repair.Our mindset is what needs to change.Important issues need to be addressed. We need to learn to take responsibility for our actions and stop blaming the victim for what happened.He/She already has enough to cope up with.Instead join hands to bring him/her justice at the earliest.We have to work in this together to make the world a safer place.

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P.S:Men are victims of sexual abuse too.I’ll have to write another article for that.Until then stay SAFE.

10 Things NRIs Deal With In India

Pretty much sums my three years of college. 😛

Reverse Focus

As an NRI who has lived for quite a long time in an ARAB country, the shift back home really tossed my senses. There’s quite a lot of things we are not accustomed to, but I have listed just a few here:

1) Liquid Curd
When we are served curd for the first time, the predictable question is “Why is it flowing?”. Let me tell you, we have only eaten SET curd irrespective of the seasons and we didn’t  pay a mini fortune for it.

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2) Gaping People
People come to know we are NRIs and we are suddenly the subject of sly stares. And ridiculous questions like “Do you understand Hindi? Are you Indian?” are constantly asked. Making it clear here once and for all : NRI stands for Non Residential INDIAN. Get it? I swear, we look and talk the same.

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3) The Streets
Have you realized that walking on…

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One Year Anniversary-WordPress

As I woke up today ,I got a notification from WordPress telling me that I’ve successfully completed ONE year of blogging.This made my day. 😀

I know that for the past few months I’ve not been active on WordPress because of my hectic schedule ,and for that I’m really sorry. 😦 Engineering is driving me crazy. 😛

I thought it would be nice to share with all of you as to how I actually joined WordPress.

So about a year ago,at this very time I was busy preparing for my internal exams.I was very frustrated after studying all day and was writing a poem to relieve the stress I was going through.After I was done ,I showed it to my roommate who suggested that I start blogging on WordPress.It was just a random thought.It’s amazing when I sit back and think about how a fleeting moment can have such a huge impact on my life.

At that very moment I felt like this was something that I was meant to do.Something that defined me. Immediately I opened WordPress and registered.

I’ve come a long way since then and read some amazing posts here.I’ve learnt a lot which has impacted my style of writing,making it better than before.It wouldn’t be possible without all you guys out there.I know we might never really meet in real life,or even get to know each other but I want you all to know that I’m very thankful to God for this wonderful family of WordPress, that I’ve come to know.Your support and appreciation of my work means a lot to me.  😀

Lots of love to you all ❤ ❤ ❤

Morning Bloodshed

Little footsteps are heard echoing
In the long and empty hallways.
Late for class once again,
Little Zara scampered along.
The hallway was unnaturally quiet
The silence freaking her a bit.
It was like the calm before the storm.
As she turned she caught sight
Of men in black suits and big guns.
She clamped her mouth and ran,
As fast as she could ,
Away from that horrible man.
Unceasing laughter and noise
Replaced by gunshots.
White hallways painted red.
She hid under a desk in fear.

Absolutely true! EVERY word!

Life Confusions

“The good times and the bad times both will pass. It will pass. It will get easier. But the fact that it will get easier does not mean that it doesn’t hurt now. And when people try to minimize your pain they are doing you a disservice. And when you try to minimize your own pain you’re doing yourself a disservice. Don’t do that. The truth is that it hurts because it’s real. It hurts because it mattered. And that’s an important thing to acknowledge to yourself. But that doesn’t mean that it won’t end, that it won’t get better. Because it will.”

-John Green

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Love is all you need

I’m sipping a cup of coffee and thinking about the one thing that everyone in the world needs irrespective of their gender,caste or religion.It’s LOVE.Our world is so much in need of this emotion.

Everyone seems to be empty within,and they need someone to fill that void.Each and every person desires to be loved.Love can come  in different forms during a lifetime.It is present everywhere.Maybe sometimes,we just don’t see it.

Now,according to the Greeks,there are basically four different types of love-  Storge,Philia,Eros and Agape.

4 types of love

1.Storge(affection):It’s the kind of love you have for your family.The sacrificial love that parents have for their children. Storge love is unconditional, it accepts flaws or faults and ultimately drives you to forgive.This kind of love also exists between siblings and other family members.This love gives you a sense of security,that the person giving you Storge love will always be there.

2.Philia(friendship):It is the love that blooms in friendships.Best friends will display this generous and affectionate love for each other as each seeks to make the other happy.It is a committed and chosen love.It can also be translated as a “brotherly love” OR “sisterly love”.Since philia love involves feelings of warmth and affection toward another person, we do not have this kind of love toward our enemies.

3.Eros(romantic love):It is the love between two people in a committed relationship.It’s more of a passionate and intense love.It is the love you have for “The one” or your “soul mate”.

4.Agape(unconditional love):The love that God has for us.This is an unconditional love that sees beyond the outer surface and accepts a person for whom he/she is, regardless of their flaws, shortcomings or faults. It’s also the type of love that everyone strives to have for their fellow human beings. Although you may not like someone, you decide to love them just as a human being. When you feel this kind of love for someone,it is giving and expecting nothing in return.

Don’t you think the world would be a much better place if everyone was loved.I understand that it is not really possible.But if you look closely at every fight,every thing that goes wrong, you’ll notice that the root cause was because that person was looking to be loved .

Not being loved can not only be very depressing but it also leads to feelings of being unwanted.Everything seems better when you are loved.You feel like going out and spreading that love.

So what I’m trying to say is that life is short,you don’t wanna waste it being sad and hurtful.Forgive quickly and love intensely.You’ll notice how different the world around you will be.

All you need is love.Love each and every person you come across even if you don’t like them.Wish good for people who  hurt you.Love unconditionally and don’t expect anything in return.So when you are loved,there is a greater sense of joy that fills your heart.

I believe that Love is a powerful thing that can not only change lives,but make the world a better place.

Ego issues

Daily prompt-Ready,Set,Done.

Starve your ego,feed your soul.

Today something happened in class that got me thinking about how big a person’s ego can be.

Recently I had my mid term exams.Today our teacher announced that the papers had been corrected and we could come and check our marks.So as I hear, a guy from our class,lets name him Mr.X went to see his papers as well.I think he expected more marks so he began arguing with the teacher about how she didn’t teach according to the textbook.I mean who talks like that.Did he expect to be spoonfed every detail from the textbook?That was one thing.Instead of being polite in asking her where he went wrong,Mr.X was rude.

This hurt my teacher deeply as she had put her soul into teaching us this subject.She was one of the best teachers in our dept. I’d often heard other classes complaining about how poorly they were taught this subject and how they wish they had our teacher.

When she asked him in class why he did so,he bluntly replied “I’m sorry if I was rude,but I don’t think I was.” Seriously?An ego filled apology.I even saw a tear slip out of the corner of her eye.I couldn’t understand how someone could be so insensitive to sadness.What would he lose if he just said those three words “I am sorry”.I don’t get it how some people these days can talk like that to someone in authority,without any feelings of guilt or regret.Would he lose a little of his ego,if he apologized?

Now,thanks to Mr.X our teacher got so mad that she has stopped teaching like the way she used to.So who suffers because of Mr.X?The entire class.

So why i’m telling you people all this?I was really upset with Mr.X’s attitude towards our teacher,and writing this made me feel better.I  even tried talking some sense into Mr.X but he was adamant.